Michelle Obama Says Keeping Daughters Out of Tabloids Was "Nightmare"
Michelle Obama had to take extra care when her kids were becoming adults.
The former first lady of the United States revealed that keeping her and husband Barack Obama's daughters Malia Obama, 26, and Sasha Obama, 23, out of the tabloids during his presidency became especially challenging when they entered their teenage years.
"That was a lot of work," Michelle told Kelly Ripa during an April 29 appearance on SiriusXM's Let’s Talk Off Camera with Kelly Ripa, "and it got harder as they got older."
For the 61-year-old, it was normal for Malia and Sasha—who were 10 and 7, respectively, when Barack took office in 2008—to dive into new experiences as they grew up, but she knew the public might not see it that way.
"They had to drive and they had to go to prom and they were on teams and they traveled to other schools and they had to do college searches, and they went to parties and they had drinks, and they tried out smoking and they did all the things," Michelle recalled, "and every weekend was a nightmare, because we had to work to make sure that them being regular teenagers didn't wind up on Page Six."
Emphasizing that keeping their experimentation out of the spotlight was "a lot of work," she noted that the period required "a lot of intentionality."
"When your kids are under the security of the Secret Service, you almost have to work twice as hard to make their life normal," Michelle continued. "Imagine setting up the first play date or the first time the kids get invited to a play date. The process of having my children at your house meant that an advanced team had to come and question and search your house and ask if you had drugs and guns."
But now that they're independent adults, Michelle has a new mission when it comes to raising her daughters: making sure they can handle the pressure that comes with their dad being a former president.
"We call that the Obama tax for them," she quipped. "You'll have it the rest of your life, but you also have a lot of benefits."
Michelle continued, "I'm trying to make this feel normal to them, because you don't want them to start thinking, number one, they're full of themselves, that any of this is about them and that their job is to go about their lives."
She added of the mindset she wants them to have, "This world is not about you. This is just your dad's job."
For more times Michelle shared her sage wisdom, keep reading.
"Do not be afraid to fail because that often times is the thing that keeps us as women and girls back," Michelle Obama said while speaking with students on International Day of the Girl in 2016. "Because we think we have to be right. We think we have to be perfect. We think that we can't stumble. And the only way you succeed in life, the only way you learn, is by failing. It's not the failure; it's what you do after you fail."
Asked by Meghan Markle the advice she gives daughters Malia Obama and Sasha Obama, the former first lady explained, "Don't just check the boxes you think you're supposed to check...I tell them that I hope they'll keep trying on new experiences until they find what feels right."
"And what felt right yesterday might not necessarily feel right today," she continued in their conversation for British Vogue. "That's OK—it's good, even. When I was in college, I thought I wanted to be a lawyer because it sounded like a job for good, respectable people. It took me a few years to listen to my intuition and find a path that fit better for who I was, inside and out."
Job titles shouldn't matter. "What I learned was none of that has to do necessarily with who I am," Obama said in a 2018 panel with Penguins Books U.K., "not what I want to be."
Instead, Obama encourages you to think big: What do you care about, how do you want to invest your time, what brings your joy and what makes your sad?"We don't teach that in school," she continued, "but I learned to try and find that for me and turn that passion into my career."
Once she did that, her life changed for the best. Why? "Because I started asking myself that one simple question: Not what did I want to be, but who did I want to be?" she said, later adding,"If you're starting to think, what kind of work will bring you joy? Because if you find that, you're going to do well at it and everything else will fall into place. And it did for me."
"Barack [Obama] and I were raised with so many of the same values: like, you work hard for what you want in life; that your word is your bond; that you do what you say you're going to do; that you treat people with dignity and respect, even if you don't know them and even if you don't agree with them," she said at the 2008 Democratic National Convention. "And Barack and I set out to build lives guided by these values and to pass them on to the next generation. Because we want our children—and all children in this nation—to know that the only limit to the height of your achievements is the reach of your dreams and your willingness to work hard for them."
In her 2018 memoir Becoming, Obama wrote about a call-and-response she'd learned in high school. "Confidence, I'd learned then, sometimes needs to be called from within," she noted. "I've repeated the same words to myself many times now, through many climbs: 'Am I good enough? Yes I am.'"
"When someone is cruel or acts like a bully, you don't stoop to their level," Obama said during her speech at the 2016 Democratic National Convention. "No, our motto is when they go low, we go high."
While giving her 2015 Tuskegee University commencement address, she said, "I have learned that as long as I hold fast to my beliefs and values—and follow my own moral compass—then the only expectations I need to live up to are my own."
"There's power in allowing yourself to be known and heard in owning your unique story, in using your authentic voice," she wrote at the end of Becoming. "And there's grace in being willing to know and hear others. This, for me, is how we become."
"One of the lessons that I grew up with was to always stay true to yourself and never let what somebody else says distract you from your goals," Obama said during a 2008 interview with Marie Claire. "And so when I hear about negative and false attacks, I really don't invest any energy in them, because I know who I am."
"You may not always have a comfortable life. And you will not always be able to solve all the world's problems all at once," Obama said during her 2011 keynote address at the Young African Women Leaders Forum. "But don't ever underestimate the impact you can have, because history has shown us that courage can be contagious, and hope can take on a life of its own."
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